The Power of Vulnerability!

Why am I choosing to write about vulnerability. Well, I guess its something that I have recently discovered and have come to understand that being vulnerable is not weak, in fact being vulnerable can make us feel strong and authentic. This is a little about my story of vulnerability.

As a sensitive, introverted and private person who feared rejection, the thought of being vulnerable would never cross my radar. I could not imagine revealing my secrets, inner feelings or thoughts to anyone that could use them against me. The fear of getting hurt or losing trust in someone overcame all abilities to be vulnerable. I never stopped to think that revealing more of myself could be beneficial.

"When you feel you are surrounded by judgement, the idea of giving people more to judge you riddled me with doubts"

I realise now that not being vulnerable in my past meant that I was unable to develop deep connections with people and I would not allow people to get too close to me. I believed people would only need to know me at a surface level. It meant that I could enjoy these friendships and relationships, but I would always be in control, I could never get hurt or judged. Unfortunately, it was not the case, in fact, it meant that my relationships were superficial and I was not developing deep connections or strengthening relationships.

Through my experience of being vulnerable, I have learnt that opening up to people and revealing ourselves to people can allow us to be hurt, but, it also allows us to be our true authentic self, it allows us to trust others, it allows us to build and grow with others. Being vulnerable means we don't need to hide ourself or who we are. Although its important to choose the right people to be vulnerable with, I am yet to have a negative experience with someone by being vulnerable. Even if someone does judge us on our vulnerabilities, at least we had the courage to reveal them.

The courage to reveal our vulnerabilities, the strength, the authenticity, the bravery. This is what being vulnerable is. We have enough strength, courage and belief in ourself knowing that being vulnerable is ok. I encourage you to be vulnerable in your relationships and see what it offers, see what you learn and how it effects you and your partner.

Much Love, Joe